In order to achieve the fun and festive atmosphere you want at your wedding, there are a few things that you should never do. Actually, these are things that should never be done by anyone on wedding day, not your wedding vendors, wedding party, family members or anyone. In the past, I’ve talked about how to create a calm, relaxed environment on wedding day and how to calm your nerves on wedding day, but today I’m talking about three things to definitely avoid doing.Read More
Your wedding day is filled with festivity, joyful chaos, and lots of emotions. Most married people remember recall their wedding as a delightful blur that flew by too quickly. You will likely have spent months and sometimes the better part of a year or more to plan for your wedding weekend, so there’s a lot of anticipation leading up to the big event. I’ve seen couples who have spent 18 months or more planning their wedding and then get so caught up in every little detail on wedding day that they weren’tRead More
I recently officiated a wedding for two of the most relaxed people I've ever had the pleasure of working with. They, along with their families, had done an incredible job of planning the wedding. Having all those details worked out ahead of time definitely reduced their stress on wedding, but something else was going on...Read More
I have only one regret about my wedding. No, it's not the man I married nor the vows I took. It's not the date we chose nor the location. It's not the timeline nor the food. My only regret about my wedding is that we didn't hire a videographer.
At the time, we felt like hiring someone to film the wedding would just be a wasted expense; a luxury. We hired a very talented professional wedding photographer and felt confident in that decision. We knew that the wedding photos would be the only thing that would really last after the wedding, and so we splurged on two photographers (which wasn't customary at the time) and the leather bound album.
While I'm so grateful we have photos from our wedding (and I do look at the album), what's really missing from my memory are all the wonderful things our guests said and all the other sounds of the day. I don't remember who stood up to toast us, let alone a word of what they said. I don't remember the music our friend wrote for our processional or what our officiant said during our ceremony. I would love to see how people enjoyed our wedding while we weren't with them. Did they have fun? What did they laugh about? Who did they meet? What did they feel and think about the day?
Please learn from my one regret and hire a wedding videographer to film your Maine wedding! And if you need a little push, here are my reasons why to hire a Maine wedding videographer.
7 Reasons to hire a filmmaker for your wedding
You think you'll never forget your wedding, but you will.
You'll get to hear your partner pledge eternal love and devotion.
You'll get to hear the sounds of the fun party you spent so long planning.
You know how hard you worked on your beautiful, meaningful ceremony? Don't you want to hear it again? And again? And again?
It all goes by in a blur, video can slow it all down so you can savor the feelings, emotions and memories.
You'll get to see what your guests were doing while you were busy.
A wedding film, along with a wedding album, will give you the full picture of your day.
To help you find the videographer that's right for you, I made a list of some of Maine's best wedding videographers. Find a way to prioritize your wedding budget to include a videographer, you will never regret it!
We Maine wedding professionals field a lot of inquiry emails, especially during “inquiry season” which is Thanksgiving to Valentine’s Day. You want your inquiry email to stand out, to have some personality and to catch the attention of the wedding vendor that you're hoping to work with, right? To help your email stand out from the crowd think about using some of the following suggestions.Read More
Are you looking for ways to honor special people in your life with roles during your wedding? It's common to choose bridesmaids or groomsmen or bridesmen and groomsmaids to stand with your during the ceremony. Of course, most people choose their very dearest friends and siblings for this honor, but what if you have a huge family and a ton of friends? How can you include them and make them feel special? Here are a few ideas for including those special people in your wedding.
Roles in Your Wedding for Special People
Usher - The peson(s) responsible for assisting the elders, or just special people, to their seats. traditionally groomsmen do double duty as ushers, but think about picking other folks to be ushers if you want to include more people.
Ring Bearer - The person responsible for the ring and can guide the ring through the ring warming, if you doing that. this doesn't have to be a young child anymore.
Flower Girl - This person goes down the aisle right before the bride (in a traditional wedding) and drops flower petals for her to walk on. aw! again, this doesn't have to be a young child.
Greeter - This person can greet the guests, answer any questions about the seating/ceremony, and hand out programs. it's nice to have at least two greeters.
Reader - Someone who comes up during the ceremony to read a poem or other bit of writing. typical topics: love, marriage, friendship, family, the couple's love story.
Singer - A person with a great voice, who has sung in front of crowds, who sings you a lovely song during your ceremony.
Musician - A friend or family member who is a professional musician to play your processional and recessional music.
Huppah Holder - If you're having a huppah, you can choose four special people to hold the corners of the structure. this is a great way to include a lot of people in your wedding!
Candle Lighter - If you're having any candles on your "altar," use someone to come up and light them before the ceremony begins.
Witnesses - In Maine you need two people to act as witnesses to your wedding who sign the marriage license after the wedding. witnesses can be anyone, of any age, as long as they understand the implication of a marriage
Map Holder - Consider having someone hand out maps or directions to the reception site after the ceremony.
Water Boy/Girl - This person ensures the couple getting married always have and regularly consume water during the wedding day. it's crucial the couple stay hydrated throughout the day and they often forget to drink water.
Point Person - Sometimes it's nice to assign someone the role of point person for all your wedding vendors. Ideally this would be a professional wedding planner. This should be a very responsible person who knows your wishes and can make decisions for your so you're not bothered during your wedding. It may seem more like a job and less like an honor but: 1) You need someone to do this if you don't have a wedding planner, and 2) It really is an honor since that person is in charge in your stead.
Gift Monitor - The person who makes sure the gifts get to your after the wedding. Many couples forget to assign this job to someone and then have to scramble at the last minute to make arrangements for gifts, especially if you're leaving for your honeymoon the next morning.
Guest Book Monitor -This person stands at your guest book and encourages people to fill it out. This is especially important if you have a unique guest book that requires a little more work than just a signature.
Candy Station Monitor - This lucky person gets to help the party-goers with their candy fix.
Dance Starter - T can't underestimate the role of this person. getting the dance party started must be assigned to someone. Once one person starts everyone else will feel comfortable getting out there.
Tip Giver - Consider assigning someone the job of handing out the tip envelopes to the vendors near the end of the reception. I had all the tips in sealed and labeled envelopes so it was a pretty easy job, but someone needs the responsibility so you don't have to worry about it.
See if this sounds familiar, you got engaged and immediately started wedding planning. Heck, you've been thinking about your wedding for years now and knew just where you wanted it to take place. You secured the wedding venue, hired the caterer, photographer, florist, and officiant, maybe even started wedding dress shopping. You were feeling really good about yourself. Look how much you already accomplished is such a short time! You even thought, "i don't understand why people say wedding planning is so hard, it's really not that bad."Read More
i recently saw a post on the huffington post about successful marriages and what makes them that way. while i totally agree with the author of the story, it made me start thinking about my own marriage. i've only been married for six years, so maybe i don't have the authority to tell someone else what makes a successful marriage, but in those six years we've been through hell and back. so i'm going to share my tips for a successful marriage and you can do with them what you will.
- "give in" - you don't have to do this one all the time, but there are tons of occasions where giving in rather than holding your ground on some ridiculous point is the better thing to do for the marriage. if it's really, really hard for your to give in, then use the phrase "you may be right." by allowing that your partner may be right you're acknowledging that there may be some truth to what he/she is saying while still maintaining some of your power. it's a gem!
- "admit it when you're wrong" - this sort of follows "give in" but it's a little different. use this phrase sparingly (so it retains its impact) and ONLY use it when you're really apologizing. DO NOT under any circumstances use it sarcastically. here goes: "you're right, i'm wrong, i'm sorry, and i love you." i'm telling you, this one works wonders!
- "use check-ins" - this is sort of like the huffington posts's suggestion of having a date night once a week. that sounds great on paper (screen?) but in reality finding the time for a romantic date night every week is not bloody likely. so instead, use the check-in. it takes only a few minutes and you can do it anywhere. stop, take a breath, look your mate in the eye, and honestly ask "how are you?" you must only do this if you really want to know the answer because sometimes the convo can get heavy.
- "have an attitude of gratitude" - this is where i totally agree with the author of the blog post but i want to take it even further. rather than just acknowledging the big accomplishments (which you'd probably do anyway, right?) make it a personal challenge to notice any little thing your partner does. for example, if i notice that my husband has taken out the recycling, i thank him for it. or if i see that he's washed my to-go mug and boiled the water for the coffee, i thank him for it. i am honestly grateful for every little thing he does, and want to know the best part? he does this for me, too! it means we're always on the lookout for ways appreciate the other.
- "do good" - do nice things for your mate. they don't have to be big, grand gestures, just little things. try to do one thing every day. i'd love to see some suggestions in the comments.
- "be alone" - everyone talks about this and it can be really hard to do, but you must find time to be alone. even if you're like me and you sincerely enjoying spending as much time with your husband as you can, you MUST have alone time. if you're also like me, you don't want to hurt your husband's feelings by saying "i just want to be alone right now" but work up the nerve, honey. it's SO important.
- "have a hobby" - this sort of follows having alone time but the two may not necessarily go together. finding something you really enjoy and allowing yourself to be immersed in it now and again is so healthy for your marriage. i bet your partner fell in love with you because you were this wonderful, interesting, independent person who had passions and dreams and interests. well, my advice is: don't loose those when you get married. you may think "duh, of course i'm going to keep doing _____" but you'd be surprised how easily _____ can fall by the wayside. don't let it.
so, there you have it. i must say that i'm not great at doing all of these things but i know that if/when i do them they really do strengthen my marriage. i'm SUPER lucky to be with a man who is also working on this same list, so i've got that going for me. i hope your partner feels the same way. best of luck on the journey of a lifetime!