I’ve been officiating weddings long enough to know the number one mistake couples make that makes their wedding stressful, upsetting, and not a lot of fun. You might think it has something to do with the budget or making sure there’s enough food, but from what I’ve seen it’s something less obvious and more insidious. Read on to find out the number one mistake couples make at their wedding.Read More
By now you probably already know that as a professional officiant, I plan, organize and run your wedding rehearsal. I do this in order to create the space into which you and your beloved can sink to become totally present during your wedding ceremony. Your wedding ceremony is such a precious time and we want to make sure you’re in the moment throughout the whole thing.Read More
Let me start by saying, I love wedding programs, but maybe not for the reason you think. Sure, it’s nice to see who is involved in the ceremony and how the ceremony will unfold, but my main reason for liking programs is that they serve many purposes. One purpose is, of course, to list out the couple getting married and their wedding party (and even sometimes the wedding officiant).Read More
As a professional wedding officiant, I spend a lot of time with the groomsmen right before the ceremony starts. Many times the groomsmen need my help with some last minute details like affixing the boutonnieres, tying ties, deciding which suit button to button, etc. Because these questions come up again and again, I thought I’d write a special blog post for all the grooms and groomsmen out there.Read More
In order to achieve the fun and festive atmosphere you want at your wedding, there are a few things that you should never do. Actually, these are things that should never be done by anyone on wedding day, not your wedding vendors, wedding party, family members or anyone. In the past, I’ve talked about how to create a calm, relaxed environment on wedding day and how to calm your nerves on wedding day, but today I’m talking about three things to definitely avoid doing.Read More
Your wedding day is filled with festivity, joyful chaos, and lots of emotions. Most married people remember recall their wedding as a delightful blur that flew by too quickly. You will likely have spent months and sometimes the better part of a year or more to plan for your wedding weekend, so there’s a lot of anticipation leading up to the big event. I’ve seen couples who have spent 18 months or more planning their wedding and then get so caught up in every little detail on wedding day that they weren’tRead More
If you're not from Maine or aren't currently living here but you want to get married here, you probably want to know when is the best time to get married in Maine. I've lived in Maine since 2007 and having been an officiant since 2011, so I have a lot of experience to help you find the right time of year to get married here.Read More
It's time to start looking for your wedding officiant. You're getting married in Maine, and it's a destination wedding, so you have no idea who's going to perform your ceremony. You thought about asking a friend to officiate your ceremony, because it would be so meaningful, but, although that friend is a great public speaker, they're kind of disorganized and you're not sure you can trust them to pull it all together by wedding day.Read More
I'm delighted to introduce you all to my fellow wedding officiant and friendor, Erika Hewitt, who is a Unitarian Universalist minister here in Maine. Erika and I share a similar passion for wedding officiating and often refer couples to one another when we're booked. In this post, Erika talks about a phenomenon which is sometimes called "ghosting." Read on to learn more.
Just Say No
As a wedding officiant, I’m in the relationship business in more ways than the most obvious one. I don’t just lead the celebration of your relationship; I also want to create a relationship of trust and collaboration with you, as a couple — even if we never have more than an introductory conversation.
When I meet with a couple so they can learn about me, two things happen: I feel a thrill of “I like you! I hope you choose me” and I pencil in their date on my calendar so that other couples can’t hire me out from under them.
Fortunately, many couples get back to me with the happy news that they’re hiring me. Sometimes, though, couples disappear for months, leaving their phantom wedding date on my calendar, and me wondering whether they’ve found another officiant… or whether they forgot to hire me (believe it or not, this actually happens!).
"We have big hearts and thick skin."
I speak on behalf of all wedding officiants when I say that we hope you hire us — but we hope even more that you’ll find an officiant you feel excited about. We have big hearts and thick skin; it’s okay to email us and let us know we’re off the hook because you clicked with someone else. We won’t feel insulted if you write a short note saying, “Thanks for your time, but we’re going in another direction.” In fact, it saves us the awkward step of reaching out to you to ask, “I’ve been saving your wedding date for three months. Should I keep holding it?”
From the officiant to the florist, from the lighting pros to the band, all of us in the wedding world will go out of our way to make you feel valued, respected, and understood as you plan your perfect day. Paradoxically, one way you can reflect that back to us is to just say no — instead of disappearing — when you decide that we’re not the one for you.
Rev. Erika Hewitt
Planning a Wedding
Yay, we're engaged! Holy crap, now we have to plan a wedding!
Those two sentiments often go hand in hand, amiright?! You get all excited and swept away with the engagement, and then the reality of planning a huge, fun wedding sets in. And even if you're planning a small, intimate wedding, trust me, there are still a million details to think about. So, you need some help!*
Let me help you by giving you a list of the best online resources for planning your Maine wedding. If you're getting married in Maine, you must check out these great sites. The Maine wedding websites listed here share local information that you won't find on national blogs and websites. So if you're getting married in Maine, make sure to check out these great local resources.
Maine Wedding Planning Resources
Maine.gov Getting Married in Maine
Borrowed and Blue Coastal Maine
A Sweet Start (shameless self-promotion!)
Acadia National Park Weddings
Visit Maine Wedding Planning
WellWed Maine and New Hampshire Weddings
Style Me Pretty Maine Weddings
Did I miss any online resources providing information for couples getting married in Maine? List them in the comments below.
*I always, always, always encourage you to hire a wedding planner, especially if you're having a Maine destination wedding. You might think you can't afford one, but actually, you can't afford not to have one.