As a professional wedding officiant, I arrive to your ceremony at least an hour early. That means I get to see the finishing touches of the hair and makeup team (if you’re not doing a first look and already ready). The ladies are often in colorful robes, drinking champagne and laughing at inside jokes. I get to observe the catering staff and wedding planner finalizing the tablescapes and decor. And, I get to check in with the groom and his groomsmen (if there is one) to see how they’re getting ready. Sometimes it’s loud music, shots of whiskey and maybe even lawn games. It’s such a relaxed and happy time!Read More
Your wedding day is filled with festivity, joyful chaos, and lots of emotions. Most married people remember recall their wedding as a delightful blur that flew by too quickly. You will likely have spent months and sometimes the better part of a year or more to plan for your wedding weekend, so there’s a lot of anticipation leading up to the big event. I’ve seen couples who have spent 18 months or more planning their wedding and then get so caught up in every little detail on wedding day that they weren’tRead More
When I was planning my wedding, way before I became a professional wedding officiant, I read tons of books (yes, I got married so long ago that there were no wedding blogs yet <gasp>) about different traditional elements to a wedding. I was particularly drawn to many of the Jewish traditions. My grandmother was Jewish and that makes my father Jewish. However, they never went to synagogue or really practiced any of the tenets of the faith, so technically I'm not jewish at all. But as I said, I was drawn to some of the Jewish wedding traditions.
What is the Yichud?
One tradition in particular that I thought sounded appealing, was the Yichud. the Jewish Book of Why describes it like this:
This word means “seclusion,” and it’s a totally private affair. Immediately after the [wedding] ceremony, the couple retreats to a private room for 15 minutes of staring into each other’s eyes. in the past, bride and groom would head to a nearby tent to consummate the marriage! This isn’t done much these days, but it is customary for newlyweds to seize a Yichud moment and feed each other a bite of something.
The idea of having a few private moments with my husband before joining the party seemed like such a romantic idea. So this is what we did. We had someone set up two chairs and a small bistro table with a chilled 1/2 bottle of Veuve Clicquot champagne on it. This was all set up on a small Point jutting into the river. From the Point we could look back at the party, which allowed us to have a moment of reflection.
Immediately after the ceremony, I took off my (fabulous, gorgeous) wedding shoes and put on some sneakers so we could walk down the path through the woods to "Wedding Point." (We got married at my parents' house so we all refer to it as Wedding Point now.)
You know what? It was romantic! Nick popped the cork on the champagne and we watched our guests enjoying the cocktail hour. Our photographer followed us out there and took a few photos, and then we all went back and joined the party.
I would highly recommend finding a way to incorporate a moment for just the two of your right after your wedding ceremony, especially if you've invited 100+ guests. It's all going to zoom by so quickly you might look back with regret that you didn't take a deep breath and look into your sweetheart's eyes and acknowledge the significant moment you just shared.
All photos by Amy Wilton Photography
See if this sounds familiar, you got engaged and immediately started wedding planning. Heck, you've been thinking about your wedding for years now and knew just where you wanted it to take place. You secured the wedding venue, hired the caterer, photographer, florist, and officiant, maybe even started wedding dress shopping. You were feeling really good about yourself. Look how much you already accomplished is such a short time! You even thought, "i don't understand why people say wedding planning is so hard, it's really not that bad."Read More