I’ve been officiating weddings long enough to know the number one mistake couples make that makes their wedding stressful, upsetting, and not a lot of fun. You might think it has something to do with the budget or making sure there’s enough food, but from what I’ve seen it’s something less obvious and more insidious. Read on to find out the number one mistake couples make at their wedding.Read More
As a professional wedding officiant, I arrive to your ceremony at least an hour early. That means I get to see the finishing touches of the hair and makeup team (if you’re not doing a first look and already ready). The ladies are often in colorful robes, drinking champagne and laughing at inside jokes. I get to observe the catering staff and wedding planner finalizing the tablescapes and decor. And, I get to check in with the groom and his groomsmen (if there is one) to see how they’re getting ready. Sometimes it’s loud music, shots of whiskey and maybe even lawn games. It’s such a relaxed and happy time!Read More
As a professional wedding officiant, I spend a lot of time with the groomsmen right before the ceremony starts. Many times the groomsmen need my help with some last minute details like affixing the boutonnieres, tying ties, deciding which suit button to button, etc. Because these questions come up again and again, I thought I’d write a special blog post for all the grooms and groomsmen out there.Read More
In order to achieve the fun and festive atmosphere you want at your wedding, there are a few things that you should never do. Actually, these are things that should never be done by anyone on wedding day, not your wedding vendors, wedding party, family members or anyone. In the past, I’ve talked about how to create a calm, relaxed environment on wedding day and how to calm your nerves on wedding day, but today I’m talking about three things to definitely avoid doing.Read More
I’ve been officiating weddings in Maine since 2011, so I feel like I can say with confidence that I know the number one secret to a happy wedding day. You might think I’m going to say something like relax and try not to stress, which is definitely important. Or maybe you think I’m going to say calm your nerves, which again is a great idea. I’m sure you know I’m going to say hire a wedding planner, which is the second best way to have a stress-free and happy wedding day. But the number one way to have a fun, laid back and carefree wedding day is this:Read More
I recently officiated a wedding for two of the most relaxed people I've ever had the pleasure of working with. They, along with their families, had done an incredible job of planning the wedding. Having all those details worked out ahead of time definitely reduced their stress on wedding, but something else was going on...Read More
As I do every year, I provide you with the Farmer's Almanac best days to get married in the coming year. Since 1818 the Farmer's Almanac has been offering advice and wisdom and predictions for the future, and I consider them a trusted source of information. So, without further ado...
The Best Days to Get Married in 2017
- January: 2, 3, 6, 7, 10, 11, 29, 30
- February: 2, 3, 7-9, 25, 26
- March: 2, 3, 6-9, 25, 26, 29, 30
- April: 2-6, 9, 10, 21, 22, 25, 26, 29, 30
- May: 1-3, 6-8, 18-20, 23, 24, 27-30
- June: 2-4, 19, 20, 23-26, 30
- July: 1, 17, 18, 21-24, 27, 28
- August: 14, 17-20, 23-25
- September: 5, 13-17, 20, 21
- October: 2, 3, 12-14, 17, 18, 29-31
- November: 3, 10, 13-15, 26, 27, 30
- December: 1, 11, 12, 23, 24, 28, 29
FINE PRINT: It's important to know that I'm not a wizard, magician, fortune teller, or psychic so take these dates with a grain of salt. I'm not even sure how the Almanac derives the best days to get married, I just know that you all want to know which are the best days to get married every year.
When working with my clients, the wedding ceremony length all depends on the couple, but I really encourage them not to make it too short. There’s a trend right now to have a wicked short ceremony, sort of just "get it over with" and then have a great party. While I’m all for fun parties, I try to remind my couples that the ceremony is what really matters. Pledging your love and devotion to one another in front of all the most important people in your lives is what matters.
I think a Super Sweet Wedding ceremony that is less than 20 minutes is too short. You just don’t get enough time to digest what’s happening. It goes so fast anyway, it’s nice to slow it down a bit. Add in some elements. Add in some other voices. Let there be a nice flow to it so it’s not just your officiant talking for 10 minutes and then it’s over. This is a significant moment in your lives and it’s worth savoring.
This is a significant moment in your lives and it’s worth savoring.
That being said, I also think really long ceremonies can loose their significance. If there are too many readings or songs or interjections, it’s hard to make each one meaningful. Or if the officiant drags on too long, your guests can loose interest, heck, you and your sweetie can loose interest. And that's not good. We want you and your guests to be engaged, to be present and to be able to reflect upon what's happening as it's happening. A ceremony that is either too short or too long will loose its meaning.
I think the sweet spot is a 25 -30 minute wedding ceremony, including the processional. What do you think? How long will your ceremony be?