In this post I’m going to share with you one idea that will instantly improve your wedding ceremony experience. It also has the benefit of improving the wedding ceremony experience for your wedding guests. It’s so simple, yet I find it gets overlooked or people don’t know about this tiny tweak that makes a huge difference. After reading this you are now in-the-know and hopefully can share this tidbit with your friends when they get married.Read More
I’ve been officiating weddings since 2011, so I’ve seen a lot of wedding trends come and go. I’m not one of those people who hate trends. In fact, all I care about is that you’re incorporating things into your wedding or ceremony that feel like they reflect you as individuals and as a couple. If they happen to be trendy, great! If they’re totally non-traditional, great!Read More
By now you probably already know that as a professional officiant, I plan, organize and run your wedding rehearsal. I do this in order to create the space into which you and your beloved can sink to become totally present during your wedding ceremony. Your wedding ceremony is such a precious time and we want to make sure you’re in the moment throughout the whole thing.Read More
There is a lot that goes into answering the question, “When should our wedding ceremony start?” For starters you should hire a wedding planner or wedding coordinator who will help you decide when your wedding day timeline. I’m going to recommend you start at 3:30 p.m., but read on to see all that goes into making the decision.Read More
Let me start by saying, I love wedding programs, but maybe not for the reason you think. Sure, it’s nice to see who is involved in the ceremony and how the ceremony will unfold, but my main reason for liking programs is that they serve many purposes. One purpose is, of course, to list out the couple getting married and their wedding party (and even sometimes the wedding officiant).Read More
Have you heard of the ring warming ceremony? It’s absolutely one of my favorite traditions for your wedding! It’s very easy to do and works every time.Read More
Your wedding ceremony marks one of the most important moments in your life. You’ll want to spend time with your officiant working on the structure and flow of the ceremony to make sure it’s well paced. When people talk about boring wedding ceremonies, they’re usually talking aboutRead More
Planning a Wedding
Yay, we're engaged! Holy crap, now we have to plan a wedding!
Those two sentiments often go hand in hand, amiright?! You get all excited and swept away with the engagement, and then the reality of planning a huge, fun wedding sets in. And even if you're planning a small, intimate wedding, trust me, there are still a million details to think about. So, you need some help!*
Let me help you by giving you a list of the best online resources for planning your Maine wedding. If you're getting married in Maine, you must check out these great sites. The Maine wedding websites listed here share local information that you won't find on national blogs and websites. So if you're getting married in Maine, make sure to check out these great local resources.
Maine Wedding Planning Resources
Maine.gov Getting Married in Maine
Borrowed and Blue Coastal Maine
A Sweet Start (shameless self-promotion!)
Acadia National Park Weddings
Visit Maine Wedding Planning
WellWed Maine and New Hampshire Weddings
Style Me Pretty Maine Weddings
Did I miss any online resources providing information for couples getting married in Maine? List them in the comments below.
*I always, always, always encourage you to hire a wedding planner, especially if you're having a Maine destination wedding. You might think you can't afford one, but actually, you can't afford not to have one.
I'm totally biased
Oh boy, this is a big one! First of all, I'll say that I am totally biased about this. I'm not going to pretend to be all fair and balanced on this topic. Because I'm a professional wedding officiant, you can't blame me, right? I believe strongly that you should hire professional wedding vendors for every aspect of your wedding and especially for the ceremony. I understand why a couple would consider asking a friend to be their wedding officiant, but before doing that I want to give them my advice. This is based on being a professional wedding officiant with years of experience.
Let Your Friend be a Guest
As you can see, there are many, many pros to having a professional officiate your wedding. Another reason that didn't make the graphic is: it's nice to just let your friends be guests at your wedding. It's a lot of work and pressure to officiate a wedding ceremony, and it can also be very stressful, especially for someone who isn't experienced. Rather than putting your friend in this position, just hire an experienced professional. As a professional, I've perfected the process of collaborating with my couples to craft a custom wedding ceremony. I've organized and run many rehearsals and it's a stress-free and efficient process.
Relax, You're in Good Hands
I understand the importance of this significant moment and that's why I manage all of the details of the ceremony so you can just let go and be present with your beloved. With me or another experienced wedding officiant, you can relax, take a deep breath and focus on what's important rather than worrying about the speed of the processional, or whether or not the microphone will work, or if your friend remembered to make sure the best man has the rings, or if they'll say the correct words to make your marriage legal, or...you get the idea.
Hire a professional!
When working with my clients, the wedding ceremony length all depends on the couple, but I really encourage them not to make it too short. There’s a trend right now to have a wicked short ceremony, sort of just "get it over with" and then have a great party. While I’m all for fun parties, I try to remind my couples that the ceremony is what really matters. Pledging your love and devotion to one another in front of all the most important people in your lives is what matters.
I think a Super Sweet Wedding ceremony that is less than 20 minutes is too short. You just don’t get enough time to digest what’s happening. It goes so fast anyway, it’s nice to slow it down a bit. Add in some elements. Add in some other voices. Let there be a nice flow to it so it’s not just your officiant talking for 10 minutes and then it’s over. This is a significant moment in your lives and it’s worth savoring.
This is a significant moment in your lives and it’s worth savoring.
That being said, I also think really long ceremonies can loose their significance. If there are too many readings or songs or interjections, it’s hard to make each one meaningful. Or if the officiant drags on too long, your guests can loose interest, heck, you and your sweetie can loose interest. And that's not good. We want you and your guests to be engaged, to be present and to be able to reflect upon what's happening as it's happening. A ceremony that is either too short or too long will loose its meaning.
I think the sweet spot is a 25 -30 minute wedding ceremony, including the processional. What do you think? How long will your ceremony be?