I’ve been thinking a lot lately about who I am as a wedding officiant. I am devoted to my couples. I care deeply about the energy surrounding my couples on wedding day. I focus on staying grounded and calm during the ceremony. I have an excellent response time to all client communications. I bring joy, warmth and heart to the wedding rehearsal. And not one of these things has anything to do with the ceremony script!Read More
How do we say enough about Maria? As a couple from New England but living in Oregon, Maria made crafting our ceremony seamless, even from a distance. From the very start, she made us so comfortable in an arena we knew absolutely nothing about. The process was so simple and easy to work into our busy lives- after finding out what we liked and disliked, we received a first draft, which we edited and sent back, repeating just a few times until we had a ceremony that we all adored. So many people came up to us or messaged us after the wedding to tell us that it was the most well-crafted and personalized ceremony they'd ever been to. During the rehearsal and ceremony, Maria was so organized but also incredibly warm and kept us at ease. She didn't want the rehearsal to feel too real and emotional, so she told my dad and I jokes as we walked down for practice. Little touches like that made us appreciate her so incredibly much. We all were tearing up during the wedding! Maria was such a big part of our wedding, and I can't recommend her enough. We can't thank her enough for making a truly one-of-a-kind ceremony that was incredibly personalized and reflected us more than we could have ever imagined. Get her on your vendor team now!
Maia + Jake
Live Well Farm
With the popularity of the 9 nontraditional wedding poems blog post, I figured you might like to see a few more! As a professional wedding officiant, it's my job to help you customize and personalize your wedding ceremony. One of the best ways to do this is to include a poem or two that speak to you as a couple. It's not always easy to find just the right poem, so I help by providing you with a Dropbox folder full of readings organized by type: humorous, literary, poetry, natural elements, buddhist, etc. This way you can find just the right wedding poem for your and your sweetie!
Here are seven more nontraditional wedding poems that you might like:
To Someone Beautiful Far Away
I crave a love so deep the ocean would be jealous
No mountain, nor sea, no thing of this world could keep us apart, because this is not my world...you are.
My love, I would like even more; to be the ocean if you are the wave; to be a wave if you are the ocean.
I dropped a tear in the ocean, and whenever they find it I'll stop loving you, only then.
The Invitation by Oriah
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love for your dream for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon...I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain mine or your own without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful to be realistic to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes.”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
On Marriage by Kahlil Gibran
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God [spirit].
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together.
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
From "Gift From The Sea" by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.
I Take You My Heart by Unknown
I take you my heart
At the rising of the moon
And the setting of the stars.
To love and to honour
Through all that may come.
Through all our lives together
In all our lives,
May we be reborn
That we may meet and know
And love again,
You can give without loving By Victor Hugo, from Les Miserables
You can give without loving but you can never love without giving.
The great acts of love are done by those who are habitually performing small acts of kindness. We pardon to the extent that we love. Love is knowing that even when you are alone, you will never be truly alone again. And great happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved. Loved for ourselves. And even loved in spite of ourselves.
Notes to Myself by Hugh Prather
I must do these things in order to communicate: Become aware of you (discover you). Make you aware of me (uncover myself). Be ready to change during our conversation, and be willing to reveal my changes to you.
For communication to have meaning it must have a life. It must transcend ‘you and me’ and become 'us’. If I truly communicate, I see in you a life that is not me and partake of it. And you see and partake of me. In a small way we then grow out of our old selves and become something new. To have this kind of sharing I cannot enter a conversation clutching myself. I must enter it with loose boundaries. I must give myself to the relationship, and be willing to be what grows out of it.
Planning a Wedding
Yay, we're engaged! Holy crap, now we have to plan a wedding!
Those two sentiments often go hand in hand, amiright?! You get all excited and swept away with the engagement, and then the reality of planning a huge, fun wedding sets in. And even if you're planning a small, intimate wedding, trust me, there are still a million details to think about. So, you need some help!*
Let me help you by giving you a list of the best online resources for planning your Maine wedding. If you're getting married in Maine, you must check out these great sites. The Maine wedding websites listed here share local information that you won't find on national blogs and websites. So if you're getting married in Maine, make sure to check out these great local resources.
Maine Wedding Planning Resources
Maine.gov Getting Married in Maine
Borrowed and Blue Coastal Maine
A Sweet Start (shameless self-promotion!)
Acadia National Park Weddings
Visit Maine Wedding Planning
WellWed Maine and New Hampshire Weddings
Style Me Pretty Maine Weddings
Did I miss any online resources providing information for couples getting married in Maine? List them in the comments below.
*I always, always, always encourage you to hire a wedding planner, especially if you're having a Maine destination wedding. You might think you can't afford one, but actually, you can't afford not to have one.
Jen and Matt got married a year ago on a grand schooner in Casco Bay, Maine. I had the great honor of officiating their wedding, which was a relaxed, family-oriented, fun affair. I thought it would be fun for a newlywed couple to give us their advice after one year of marriage. I think they have some excellent advice, don't you?
Your names: Matt Jones and Jen Pepper
How many years have you been married? 1 year
When and where did you get married? June 16, 2012 – On Casco Bay aboard The Frances (sailboat).
What did you like most about your wedding?
Matt: Having the wedding on a boat. It allowed us to avoid the more traditional aspects of a wedding. We walked to the boat together and didn't have the ceremony until an hour into the sail. That allowed us to interact with our guests and each other rather than being hidden away from each other and waiting until the reception to talk to everyone.
Jen: I really loved how it didn't feel over the top and grand. To me it felt like a family reunion, where of course everyone wore something a bit nicer than jean shorts. We were all able to catch up and chat on the sail around the harbor before the ceremony began. I think that was my favorite part of the day. While of course our guests were all there to celebrate our marriage, it didn't feel as if all eyes were on us, everyone got to mingle and relax, and most of all we weren't nervous about saying our vows. The entire day was low key and filled with love.
What would you have done differently about your wedding?
Matt: Honestly, nothing. The whole thing was fantastic and really exactly what we wanted.
Jen: I can honestly say nothing. There were a few hiccups with some place cards and I didn't think about how I was going to get our parents flowers from the hotel to the sail boat - but really the day was great.
What changed after you got married?
Matt: We had already lived together for several years so there wasn't much that could be very different. I think we both knew who we were and what we expected of each other long before we ever got engaged.
Jen: I want to say nothing changed, but I guess that isn't true. While I always knew that Matt had my back and cared for me deeply, somewhere in Augusta, Maine there is a piece of paper that proves it. It's comforting to know that he really is there for me forever and that we are true partners. There is a sense of security that has only been made stinger since we said our vows.
What surprised you the most about being married?
Matt: Going in I had some preconceived notions that, in our situation, getting married would have very little impact on our relationship. After all, we were already happily living together and making plans for the future. But I do think that it strengthened our relationship in some subtle ways that make it easier to deal with bigger life decisions.
Jen: Probably that not a lot changed. I didn't expect anything to change really - but I'm happy to report that we still have as much fun as we did before were were married. We didn't become an uber serious couple once there was a ring on our fingers. We still make up songs about nothing, over quote ridiculous tv shows and just enjoy being around each other.
What do you like most about being married?
Matt: Not having to deal with a wedding ;-). But seriously, it has been feeling like we can move forward with all our plans for the future with both of us ready and willing.
Jen: I like calling him my husband. It has quite a ring to it.
What advice do you have for engaged couples or newlyweds?
1. Living together for a number of years was really great for us. Sure it meant there wasn't a dramatic difference before and after the wedding but it also meant we both knew what we were in for.
2. Your budget was probably just a guess anyway, so don't assume you're going to hit it.
3. Have some sort of project that you want to work on right after you get married / get back from your honeymoon to avoid going stir crazy.
Jen: Have fun. Marriage doesn't change people, and if one of you has some grand idea that once you are married things will be different, that once there is a ring your partner will change their ways or treat you differently, I don't think that is how it is meant to work. Love them now for who they are and love them just the same once you say I do.
If you could change one thing about your marriage, what would it be?
Matt: Nothing, I think (hope) we both went into the marriage with our eyes wide open so it has been nothing but great.
Jen: Sometimes we both can be a bit of a push over. Neither one of us will push the other to do something if they don't want to do it. While it's nice to never feel forced to do something you don't want to do, occasionally we need a kick in the pants to get the ball rolling.
Would you ever consider renewing your vows?
Matt: No, but then we haven't been married for that long.
Jen: Possibly. If we ever felt like we were growing apart, but right now we both know how much we care about each other.
i'm so excited and pleased to announce the winners of my maine gay wedding giveaway! john and larry contacted me a few months ago. it seems that john had seen a comment i made on a huffington post article and either liked what he saw or was interested enough to check out my website. i'm SO glad he did!
as so many others, john and larry are "from away." way, way far away. they live in mississippi and have to come to maine for vacations in the past. they have spent time in camden and port clyde, but they love monhegan and have decided to have their wedding on the island. i couldn't be more excited! an island wedding? now that's dreamy.
i look forward to meeting these two in person and to being honored with the role of officiant at their maine wedding.
i'm having a love affair with anchors and all things nautical at the moment. i don't know what it is but i'm totally into it. i figured i'd turn this obsession into something useful, so here it is. a nautical maine wedding inspiration blog post! enjoy!
Woohoo, you’re getting married! I'm so glad you found my website and blog. Let me introduce myself and tell you a little bit about what I do and what I offer.Read More