I have a whole page on my website with frequently asked questions, but I thought I’d share some of the most common questions I’m asked. Many of these questions come during the initial video chat consultation where couples and I meet each other and decide if we’re a good fit for their wedding ceremony.Read More
In 5 easy steps you could be working with Maria from A Sweet Start, one of Maine’s best wedding officiants! Wait, I’m writing this post, so I should say “You could be working with me!”
Step #1 The Inquiry Email
You might not know this, but the inquiry email is very important. You want your inquiry to stand out from all the other ones I receive. So, make it interesting and give me information about your wedding and your mate.
Step #2 The Meet-n-Greet
This is my favorite step because it’s when I get to meet you two! We’ll schedule a 30-minute video chat to get to know each other and see if we’re a good fit. You should look for an officiant you feel a warm connection with; someone who can earn your trust. Hopefully it’s me, but it might not be, and that’s totally ok!
Step #3 The Paperwork
This is when you read the service agreement carefully and then electronically sign it. Easy, peasy!
Step #4 Pay the Deposit
I require a non-refundable save-the-date deposit of 50% of the fee to officiate. The balance, including travel, parking, accommodations (if applicable) is due one month before the big day! You receive an electronic invoice and I accept all major credit cards.
Step #5 That’s It
We’re off to a sweet start! Woohoo!
Really the title of this post should be 5 questions I’m going to ask you. As your wedding officiant, I want to get to know you and your sweetie, so when we meet for the first time there are certain questions I’m definitely going to ask. I can’t say this is true for all professional wedding officiants, but my approach involves forming a relationship with my clients so these are some of the things I want to know about you two.Read More
Before I became a professional wedding officiant, I thought, “What a cool job, you just have to work 20 minutes on a Saturday!” It didn’t take me long to realize that’s not the kind of wedding officiant I was going to be.Read More
Many of you might not know that I've been blogging for six years! I started my blog the same time I became a professional wedding officiant, back in 2011. Since then I've covered so many different topics like: wedding ceremony timeline, make sure to eat on wedding day, how to calm your nerves, where to wear your engagement ring during the ceremony, wedding vendor pricing, 10 tips for the best wedding processional, and so, so much more. I even wrote a blog post about the best Maine wedding resources to help you plan your wedding.Read More
It's time to start looking for your wedding officiant. You're getting married in Maine, and it's a destination wedding, so you have no idea who's going to perform your ceremony. You thought about asking a friend to officiate your ceremony, because it would be so meaningful, but, although that friend is a great public speaker, they're kind of disorganized and you're not sure you can trust them to pull it all together by wedding day.Read More
I'm so fortunate to be part of the Maine wedding community and specifically the Maine wedding officiant community. We are a diverse group providing a wide range of services. Whenever one of us is booked we try to refer that couple to another officiant. In that spirit, I've put together a list of Maine wedding officiants I know and trust. I will say this, though, I have never seen these officiants actually perform a ceremony and for the most part I'm don't know their process for working with their clients. These are folks I know personally and really like (or come highly recommended by other vendors I trust), which is what my recommendation is based on.
The best Maine wedding officiants
Rev. Erika Hewitt Erika
Swoon Union Michelle
Gateway Celebrations Vivianna
A Sweet Start (that's me!)
Rev. Twinkle Marie Manning Moosehead Lake Region
Why I'm recommending my competitors
I know you might think I'm crazy putting together a list of my "competitors" on my blog, but it makes sense when you understand how strongly I believe in you finding the right officiant. I know that I'm the right officiant for some people and not for others. And that's totally ok. I'd rather help you find the right officiant for your wedding than try to convince you with some icky sales pitch to hire me. It's so important that the person who stands up there with you on wedding day is someone you feel comfortable with, who you genuinely like and who deserves and has earned your trust. Take your time finding the right person, do your homework and meet with your top choice. A good officiant and a beautifully crafted ceremony will set the tone for your wedding day so make your selection carefully!
Good luck and happy wedding!
I'm funny...looking! Hahaha! But seriously, I try to have a good sense of humor.
I love weddings! Everyone says that, but I, like, really, really love weddings!
I believe in true love.
I'm super punctual. Sometimes if I'm just on time I feel late.
I believe that love is love so I strongly support same-sex marriage and have experience working with LGBTQ couples.
I bring a calming energy to your wedding day.
I am tech savvy and can adapt to the way you want to communicate.
I am 100% invested in you and your ceremony.
I intentionally perform each ceremony like it's the first one I've ever done.
I meditate before your wedding.
I'm wicked organized.
In the car, on the way to your wedding, I do voice exercises and sing "Doe, A Deer a Female Deer" and "C-O-F-F-E-E" (do you know that one?).
I know hundreds of wedding vendors and love making referrals., if you’re not already working with a wedding planner.
I write an awesome blog to help you plan your wedding.
I try to create a fun atmosphere at your rehearsal (it's part of the festivities after all).
I take responsibility for all the details of your ceremony so you can let go and be present.
I am passionate about the work I do.
I record myself reading your ceremony and listen to it multiple times the week leading up to your wedding.
I'm married and know what it feels like to plan and execute a wedding (and what it takes to be married).
I spend time getting to know you so there's a warm connection between us on wedding day!
Photos above of my husband and me by Erin Little Photography.
WHAT WEDDING OFFICIANTS DO
- Offer advice on how to apply for the marriage license
- Make referrals to other wedding professionals they know and trust
- Listen to you describe the wedding ceremony you want
I've seen the question come up on many wedding forums: when should we hire our wedding officiant? It's a good question to be thinking about since without an officiant you really can't have a legal wedding. Even if your officiant is a friend or relative or the clergy at your church, you need to start thinking about hiring them or confirming them pretty early on in your planning process. Here are my thoughts on when you should hire your wedding officiant.Read More