As a professional wedding officiant, I spend a lot of time with the groomsmen right before the ceremony starts. Many times the groomsmen need my help with some last minute details like affixing the boutonnieres, tying ties, deciding which suit button to button, etc. Because these questions come up again and again, I thought I’d write a special blog post for all the grooms and groomsmen out there.Read More
This blog post has been stewing in my brain for a while now. It's mostly for my fellow wedding professionals but it's also just good food for thought.
I'm just gonna put it out there: It's time to stop using the word "bridal." Unless you're actually selling products to or working exclusively with brides, the word bridal is done. I cringe when I hear it. Using "bride and groom" to describe your clients in a general way is no longer acceptable. Of course, if the couple you're describing is actually an opposite-sex couple then by all means use the term bride and groom. How we talk about weddings matters.
Words to stop using : fiancé, fianceé, husband, wife, bride, groom, bridal, bridesmaids, groomsmen, bridal show
My goal has always been to be as inclusive as I can, and that means being really careful about how I talk about weddings. I mean, some weddings don't even have a bride! It's not that hard. Try using these words to describe the people you work with when you'r'e referring to them generally.
Words to use instead: sweetheart, beloved, betrothed, spouse, mate, partner, couples, clients, wedding party, attendants, wedding show
I don't want to offend anyone, but I feel like it's time for us in the wedding industry to start being more careful about how we talk. I perform weddings for all couples in love and I certainly don't want to exclude anyone by using outdated language.
As a professional wedding officiant you wouldn’t think that I would necessarily know how to but on a boutonniere. I mean, it has nothing to do with the wedding ceremony, so why would I? Well, in many cases, if the wedding couple doesn't have a wedding planner, there's no one else to do it and I end up helping the groomsmen. I’ve even had to remind the guys to put them on before the ceremony! I’ve learned a few tricks along the way that will help you learn how to pin on a boutonniere.Read More