In order to achieve the fun and festive atmosphere you want at your wedding, there are a few things that you should never do. Actually, these are things that should never be done by anyone on wedding day, not your wedding vendors, wedding party, family members or anyone. In the past, I’ve talked about how to create a calm, relaxed environment on wedding day and how to calm your nerves on wedding day, but today I’m talking about three things to definitely avoid doing.Read More
My friend and fellow wedding professional, Jessika Brooks Brewer came up with this list of seven things that happen on wedding day. Jessika is the owner of the glorious wedding venue French’s Point and has been involved with weddings since 2001, so she knows a thing or two about what happens on wedding day. I’ve been officiating weddings since 2011, so together she and I have your covered.Read More
Your wedding day is filled with festivity, joyful chaos, and lots of emotions. Most married people remember recall their wedding as a delightful blur that flew by too quickly. You will likely have spent months and sometimes the better part of a year or more to plan for your wedding weekend, so there’s a lot of anticipation leading up to the big event. I’ve seen couples who have spent 18 months or more planning their wedding and then get so caught up in every little detail on wedding day that they weren’tRead More
I’ve been officiating weddings in Maine since 2011, so I feel like I can say with confidence that I know the number one secret to a happy wedding day. You might think I’m going to say something like relax and try not to stress, which is definitely important. Or maybe you think I’m going to say calm your nerves, which again is a great idea. I’m sure you know I’m going to say hire a wedding planner, which is the second best way to have a stress-free and happy wedding day. But the number one way to have a fun, laid back and carefree wedding day is this:Read More
If you're not from Maine or aren't currently living here but you want to get married here, you probably want to know when is the best time to get married in Maine. I've lived in Maine since 2007 and having been an officiant since 2011, so I have a lot of experience to help you find the right time of year to get married here.Read More
More and more, brides are choosing to wear a veil during their wedding. Many of them decide to have the veil already off their face for the ceremony, while a few brides are sticking with the tradition of having the wedding veil over their face until the kiss. If you're going with the veil over the face, here are a few things to think about.Read More
I recently officiated a wedding for two of the most relaxed people I've ever had the pleasure of working with. They, along with their families, had done an incredible job of planning the wedding. Having all those details worked out ahead of time definitely reduced their stress on wedding, but something else was going on...Read More
It's totally normal to be nervous on wedding day. For a lot of people, the thought of being the center of attention for eight hours straight is enough to give them a panic attack. There's so much pressure for everything to be perfect on wedding day, that it's no wonder people get a little anxious. I'm going to give you a technique that will help to calm your nerves on wedding day, because we want you to enjoy the experience of the day!
How to Calm Your Nerves
When things get crazy on wedding day, try this technique:
Step away from the wonderful chaos to be by yourself for just a few moments.
Take a few sips from a glass of water and just be still.
Listen to the birds or waves or laughter in the background. Focus in on your surroundings.
Take a deep breath. As you exhale, imagine all your energy going down to your feet.
Feel your feet firmly connected to the earth.
Take another deep breath. As you exhale, let your shoulders drop.
You'll notice that your breath will start to slow down and you'll become aware of what's going on around you rather than feeling like things are out of control. I'm speaking from experience here, because on my wedding day I was (ahem...am) a bit of a control freak. I wish someone had given me this technique, I think it would have helped me become much more present and would have helped me to enjoy my wedding even more.
If this doesn't work, sometimes a shot of tequila will do the trick! Hahaha! Just kidding, actually, it's best to avoid a lot of alcohol before the ceremony. Excitement and anxiety affect your body the same way, and they both dehydrate your system. Make sure you drink lots of water as you're getting ready. And while you're at it, make sure you eat on wedding day!
I want you to know that before every ceremony, I do this technique. It helps me become grounded which allows me to be calm and relaxed during your wedding ceremony. I've heard from many couples that my calming presence really helped them be "in the moment" during their ceremony. It's my gift to you!
It's time to start looking for your wedding officiant. You're getting married in Maine, and it's a destination wedding, so you have no idea who's going to perform your ceremony. You thought about asking a friend to officiate your ceremony, because it would be so meaningful, but, although that friend is a great public speaker, they're kind of disorganized and you're not sure you can trust them to pull it all together by wedding day.Read More