As a professional wedding officiant, I arrive to your ceremony at least an hour early. That means I get to see the finishing touches of the hair and makeup team (if you’re not doing a first look and already ready). The ladies are often in colorful robes, drinking champagne and laughing at inside jokes. I get to observe the catering staff and wedding planner finalizing the tablescapes and decor. And, I get to check in with the groom and his groomsmen (if there is one) to see how they’re getting ready. Sometimes it’s loud music, shots of whiskey and maybe even lawn games. It’s such a relaxed and happy time!Read More
As a professional wedding officiant, I spend a lot of time with the groomsmen right before the ceremony starts. Many times the groomsmen need my help with some last minute details like affixing the boutonnieres, tying ties, deciding which suit button to button, etc. Because these questions come up again and again, I thought I’d write a special blog post for all the grooms and groomsmen out there.Read More
In order to achieve the fun and festive atmosphere you want at your wedding, there are a few things that you should never do. Actually, these are things that should never be done by anyone on wedding day, not your wedding vendors, wedding party, family members or anyone. In the past, I’ve talked about how to create a calm, relaxed environment on wedding day and how to calm your nerves on wedding day, but today I’m talking about three things to definitely avoid doing.Read More
My friend and fellow wedding professional, Jessika Brooks Brewer came up with this list of seven things that happen on wedding day. Jessika is the owner of the glorious wedding venue French’s Point and has been involved with weddings since 2001, so she knows a thing or two about what happens on wedding day. I’ve been officiating weddings since 2011, so together she and I have your covered.Read More
Your wedding day is filled with festivity, joyful chaos, and lots of emotions. Most married people remember recall their wedding as a delightful blur that flew by too quickly. You will likely have spent months and sometimes the better part of a year or more to plan for your wedding weekend, so there’s a lot of anticipation leading up to the big event. I’ve seen couples who have spent 18 months or more planning their wedding and then get so caught up in every little detail on wedding day that they weren’tRead More
I recently officiated a wedding for two of the most relaxed people I've ever had the pleasure of working with. They, along with their families, had done an incredible job of planning the wedding. Having all those details worked out ahead of time definitely reduced their stress on wedding, but something else was going on...Read More
Now that we're in the full swing of "wedding season," I thought it would be interesting to describe to you my process of preparing for your wedding. I'm no ordinary officiant, so you might be surprised by all that I do to get ready for your wedding.Read More
It's totally normal to be nervous on wedding day. For a lot of people, the thought of being the center of attention for eight hours straight is enough to give them a panic attack. There's so much pressure for everything to be perfect on wedding day, that it's no wonder people get a little anxious. I'm going to give you a technique that will help to calm your nerves on wedding day, because we want you to enjoy the experience of the day!
How to Calm Your Nerves
When things get crazy on wedding day, try this technique:
Step away from the wonderful chaos to be by yourself for just a few moments.
Take a few sips from a glass of water and just be still.
Listen to the birds or waves or laughter in the background. Focus in on your surroundings.
Take a deep breath. As you exhale, imagine all your energy going down to your feet.
Feel your feet firmly connected to the earth.
Take another deep breath. As you exhale, let your shoulders drop.
You'll notice that your breath will start to slow down and you'll become aware of what's going on around you rather than feeling like things are out of control. I'm speaking from experience here, because on my wedding day I was (ahem...am) a bit of a control freak. I wish someone had given me this technique, I think it would have helped me become much more present and would have helped me to enjoy my wedding even more.
If this doesn't work, sometimes a shot of tequila will do the trick! Hahaha! Just kidding, actually, it's best to avoid a lot of alcohol before the ceremony. Excitement and anxiety affect your body the same way, and they both dehydrate your system. Make sure you drink lots of water as you're getting ready. And while you're at it, make sure you eat on wedding day!
I want you to know that before every ceremony, I do this technique. It helps me become grounded which allows me to be calm and relaxed during your wedding ceremony. I've heard from many couples that my calming presence really helped them be "in the moment" during their ceremony. It's my gift to you!
I remember thinking about how I could make sure to eat on my wedding day. I'm a bit of a foodie (which just means I LOVE food) so it was really important to me that I eat. Plus, I get cranky and annoying when I don't eat, so for the sake of my new husband and all my guests, I decided to plan eating into my wedding day timeline.
Here are a few tips on how to make sure you eat on wedding day.Read More
Are you going to do your own hair and makeup for your wedding? If you answered "hell no!" then I suggest you take a look at the following list of Maine makeup artists and hairstylists. Each one on the list is willing to travel, that means they'll come to wherever it is you're getting ready (Camp? Hotel? Aunt's house?) and make you look like a million bucks!Read More