Really the title of this post should be 5 questions I’m going to ask you. As your wedding officiant, I want to get to know you and your sweetie, so when we meet for the first time there are certain questions I’m definitely going to ask. I can’t say this is true for all professional wedding officiants, but my approach involves forming a relationship with my clients so these are some of the things I want to know about you two.
Aside from all the obvious questions like:
What wedding venue have you chosen?
Which of my wedding ceremony packages are you interested in?
And, how did you hear about me?
…I’ll also ask you the following.
Questions I will ask you during our inquiry call
1) Why are you choosing to get married in Maine? Is this a destination wedding for you and your guests?
I like to know about your connection to Maine, if you have one. Many of my clients either grew up here or went to college here. Some of them attended summer camp or came here on vacation with their family. I love finding out about your connection to Maine.
2) How do you want to feel during your wedding ceremony?
Part of the reason I ask this question is to get you thinking beyond what you want your wedding ceremony to look like. Many couples haven’t thought about how they want to feel on wedding day. I think this is such an important question because it can determine the tone you and your vendors set for your celebration.
3) What is the vision you have for your wedding and the ceremony in particular?
At the point couples are reaching out to me, many of them haven’t really thought much about the ceremony and this is ok, but if you already know you want to incorporate some secular (non-religious) Jewish wedding traditions or maybe include a religious reading into your secular ceremony or maybe including your dog in your ceremony, I want to hear about it.
4) When and how did you get engaged?
Not only do I LOVE engagement stories, but sometimes your engagement story can tell me a lot about who you both are. I once had a groom who planned a treasure hunt for his fiancé and then made her a CD to listen to as she was driving to the final destination. He proposed to her on their favorite beach! This correctly indicated to me that this groom was going to enjoy being involved in the planning of the ceremony. I have no judgement about how you got engaged. I know there’s a lot of pressure to make it extra special, but I think a romantic dinner ending in a proposal is just as meaningful as a flash mob (remember those?). You can read my engagement story!
5) What made you reach out to me?
I’ll admit, I sometimes omit this question, mostly because I don’t want it to seem like I’m fishing for compliments. I genuinely would love to know what drew you to me and what it is I offer that you value. If you’re open to addressing this question, I’d love to know the answer!
Now, If you haven’t already, check out this blog post I wrote about questions to ask your wedding vendors before you hire them. You’ll also be interested in this post about questions to ask your wedding officiant. I’m sure the information in those posts will be useful, but you probably want to prepare for our call and that’s what this post is all about!